I suspect that all of the dating/romance/personal ads sites on the internet will have one thing or another to recommend them, and it many cases it would be hard to pick and choose among them, because in many cases the choice will be between six of one and a half-dozen of another. So having said that, let me continue by saying that Senior Friendfinder offered one nice touch "right off the bat" that this "good little ole southern girl" appreciated immensely. One of lessons I quickly learned several years back -- when I originally set out to find the love of my life on the internet -- was the fact that you simply could not be a "good little ole southern girl," and politely send a kind regards refusal to everyone who expressed an interest in meeting you!

I am, believe it or not, a kind hearted soul, and I used to be even more so (and if you haven't read my diatribe on the perils of allowing sociopaths into your life then you need to read it immediately, and if you have already read it, you can add a substantial loss of kind-hearted tendencies to the list of perils).... But anyway, back to my original topic. One of the quickest lessons I learned from my original internet dating experience was that you couldn't be always be kind-hearted and you couldn't always be polite. Even if "all your dear mama's fine raising" and every instinct within you said that it was only good manners to write a polite reply to each and every gentleman who wrote you a letter...you had to fight your better nature and/or you instincts and/or your upbringin' and not write each and everyone of them to politely, but ever so gently inform them that you weren't interested in receiving their kind intentions. To foolishly do so was to invite every Tom, Dick and Harry on the make to plague you their intentions. And believe you me there were lots of Toms, Dicks, & Harry's out there on the make...in fact they would freely admit that they sat there waiting to pounce on the next new lady to venture online, and compete over who got to her first.

Of course you have to understand that this was ten years ago, the internet was new and it was about 97% men. Women who knew and were familiar with computers in those days were pretty few and far between and women who were comfortable online from the old Computer Bulletin Board days...but once again I digress....

So the point of all this is...Senior Friendfinder allows you to write that all important (at least to us "good little ole southern girls" polite thank you note when you sign up. True it is somewhat impersonal since it is written in advance and sent out as an automatic response to their letter, but the notion of it at least soothes my conscious, while allowing me the luxury of being able to "anonymously" express my sincere appreciation for their interest and to thank them for their time and attention -- while at the same time, as graciously as possible say, "Please do not take it personally and do not be offended if you never hear from me in return, and best of luck to you in your search for the lady (or gentleman) of your dreams."

My advice to for you to take a moment or an hour or whatever you need to write your perfect personal ad and then save it as a .txt file so you can easily cut and paste it into the forms at any personals sites you decide to join. Although all the sites will allow you to update your ads, it is better to be prepared to put your best foot forward from the very start. Also have a flattering, but recent, photo handy, because you probably are not going to get any responses without one. People want to know what they are getting into, it may be seem shallow, but it's also human, and the members at Senior Friendfinder are not any different.

Senior Friendfinder offers free sign-up. They specialize in Singles 40 and over. Once you do your initial profile and set up your ID, they will email your password, which you use to login. The link from email will take you directly to a page encouraging you to immediately upgrade from a free membership, and while it is not required that you do so, they also offer very limited free membership privileges. However--think of that as a plus, because they do charge for upgraded memberships you are probably going to get a better caliber of member overall, and at the very least, you are going to get a lot fewer jokers, and a lot fewer site-hopping wholesale lotharios.

Now, if you've decided to go write your personal ad, and find the perfect picture, please bookmark this page and come back here to click through when you finally decide to go for it...after all that's the least you can do considering the fact that I may very well have saved you from making a poor first impression!